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Are We All Stuck On A Hedonic Treadmill?

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Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful. That’s what matters to me Steve Jobs

 

Can you remember the last time you were dreaming of buying a new car, getting a promotion at work, moving into a nicer house or finding a partner to share life with? If you finally did attain one of those things, you may have found that the happiness boost didn’t last that long or wasn’t as intense as you’d imagined. Most of us have gone through this cycle. As time passes, the feeling is eventually dissipated until you’re back to the same level of happiness you were prior to any of those changes.

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The Hedonic Treadmill (also known as hedonic adaptation) is a theory that proposes that people stay at about the same level of happiness, regardless of what happens to them. If you are an avid follower of stoicism, Congratulations, you already know what it is. Our happiness is more like a thermostat since we seem to always come back to a certain default setting in our happiness level. Good and bad events may alter our level of happiness temporarily, but in the long run, we simply adapt to any changes, and our level of happiness tends to adjust back to our old default setting.

 

Getting stuck in the Hedonic Treadmill

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Say you’re married and have two kids. You’re trying your best to get promoted at work. Because if you do, your life will change— you’d be able to replace your old car, buy new clothes for your wife, and finally take your kids to Disney World. Being a hard-worker, you get the promotion. For a day or two, you’re walking in the air. You’re happy. A few weeks later, you notice your neighbor drive off in his new car which is a shiny $40,000 Tesla. You suddenly want one. So you’ll work even harder to get a second promotion. Because if you do, your life will change. Being the hardest worker, you get the promotion. You buy a Model 3. For a day or two, you’re on cloud nine. You’re ecstatic. Months later, the same neighbor drives off in a better one. Suddenly, you want an upgrade. It goes on, and on, and on.

 

Our Happiness Formula Is Completely Wrong

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Sorry to tell you, but we’ve grown up with the wrong happiness formula burned in our minds. Our idea of happiness has long been like this: If I do great work, then I’ll become more successful, and then I’ll be happier. We do great work, have bigger successes, but instead of becoming happier, we just set new goals. With this formula, we’ll never get to happiness, as it keeps getting pushed further away. I bet you’ve observed this in your own life. One key to happiness, then, is to prevent this vicious cycle of hedonic adaptation to start rolling. We need something that helps us appreciate what we already have, be grateful for the things we’ve accomplished, and be happier now.

Who Came Up With The Term Hedonic Treadmill?

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Two psychologists, Brickman and Campbell, first published something about this concept in 1971 with their essay, “Hedonic Relativism and Planning the Good Society,” via the New York: Academic Press. During the 70’s, the concept was known as hedonic adaptation. It was not until twenty years later that Michael Eysenck likened hedonic adaptation to that of a treadmill; a more modern and understandable example. Thus, the hedonic treadmill was born.

 

Is Money=Happiness?

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Now this is a pretty big question right on our faces. So many people work long, hard hours to make more money at the expense of spending time with family, getting a good night’s sleep, or being healthy and relaxed. Of course, we all need money to survive in this competitive world. But thinking that money would give us happiness is often a big mistake. Although people earning a good living are often happier than those who don’t, once you have already reached a standard where you have what you need to function and to be contented, earning extra income will not lead to extra happiness.

 

Has There Been Any Research On Hedonic Treadmill?

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In 1987, Brickman, Coates, & Janoff-Bulman published research, “Lottery winners and accident victims: is happiness relative?” The researched revealed that, in the long term, neither group appeared to be happier than the other. Of course, at first there were strong emotional reactions of happiness and sadness, respectively, but any long lasting effects from the lottery or the accidents were not typical.

Few Ideas To Get Off The Hedonic Treadmill

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1. Know Where You are Going

It’s really important to know what you’re aiming for, for everything else to fall into place. What is your goal, or your envisioned destination in life? Ultimately, what are you making money for? And how does your spending help you to achieve that?

2. Consider Under-indulgence

To achieve more happiness for your money, practise ‘under-indulgence’- indulging a little less than you typically do. By denying yourself excess, you can better savour and appreciate the finer things in life. Eating chocolate sparingly instead of excessively can make you enjoy it more. Live in a small house, and rent a huge luxury pad a few times a year. The comparative cost is far, far cheaper, yet the enjoyment is much greater than taking such possessions for granted.

 3. Collaborative Consumption

Collaborative consumption means sharing, swapping, bartering, trading or renting products, instead of ownership. In 2010, collaborative consumption was named one of TIME Magazine’s ‘10 ideas that will change the world’. The benefits of collaborative consumption are immense. It helps increasing happiness and contentment by networking and freeing up assets or money.

The hedonic treadmill theory states that our circumstances, including extremes like winning the lottery or becoming a paraplegic, alter our happiness level temporarily, and we quickly adjust back to a fixed emotional set point. Is this an important concept to grasp when it comes to understanding happiness? Absolutely. Find out your thinking patterns, set new ones if unhappy.

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Tips To Take Care Of Your Plants During Monsoon

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Monsoon is the time we all long for. Despite of the low temperature and humidity Monsoon is the best time to have plants. They offer roots the potential for growth. During the summer season, your indoor plants can absorb the humidity in the air and get rid of the excess sunlight they have.

Yet during this time of year you have to take extra care of your plants as well. There are many things to watch out for, from irrigation to bringing in fertilizers.

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Really, there is not a weekly or monthly task list. You need to run your eye over them everyday when you’ve plants. Doesn’t mean looking at every single one in-depth every day – just go to the places where the plants are to see if any of them look sad. Make sure you water them when they are hungry, and if they are dusty clean them with my hoodie’s collar.

In addition to that, crack the neem oil and cloth to clean them every month or so, but a schedule is not required. Just do that when I come across a lot of dusty plants.

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Technically, make sure all your plants are watered before you clean the house on a Saturday, but this is more so because you don’t want to trail the soil on a freshly vacuumed carpet. We highly recommend linking your homework with plant care-it’s so good when all is watered clean.

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Few tips to take care of your plants-

There is no restriction in following a routine for your plants, but their regular updates and changes must be noted down. If you’re a plant lover you must be knowing how difficult and full of patience it is to have plants. Make sure you take care of them in such a way only.

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1. Be sure to test their pots before watering them. They need only a small amount of water during this time. Overwatering can cause root damage.

2. Never water them after 3 PM.

3. Make sure the pots drainage system is correct, as there can be no stagnant water.

4. During the monsoon season the plants are vulnerable to worms. So, don’t forget to regularly check the beds for any infections. Earthworms are good for them, however, as they dig holes in the soil which helps to nitrate.

5. During the monsoon, the humidity level is high, so ensure plants get proper ventilation and light.

6. When you need fertilizers to be applied to your plant, do so between 7 am and 11 am in the morning.

7. Apply pesticide and fungicide once a week in your indoor plants to prevent pests and diseases, as they continue to attract pest easily during monsoon.

8. Instead of plastic sheets, you can use perforated sheets to cover your plants on the terrace or verandah if they are on. It will help in sprinkling water on them.

9. Pruning them before the Monsoon is always advisable.

10. Don’t forget to keep the saplings in the right place to save them from rain.

Also, read- 5 indoor plants to grow inside your home right now

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Mahabharata And Its Many Sides

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Mahabharata is one of the greatest Indian epics. It has been told and spread from ages. In addition, it is not just the Indians but also foreign scholars who look at the book in awe. Similarly, in modern days, more and more authors are presenting the text from different perspectives. Read about this book here in this post.

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The reason why the book is so popular and looked up to is that every possible dynamic of human relations, of statesmanship, of politics, warfare and diplomacy are all there in the book. Moreover, what makes it even more special is that all the things that have been written about are still relevant even today day.

However, Mahabharata was written centuries ago. Therefore, it is much different from what things are today. For instance, we got the term feminism now, women are much different than those times. Most women today even take up jobs and work for earning. In addition, due to the freedom of speech, more people can take up artistic fictional perspectives on the great epic.

Books that are Retelling of Mahabharata

The Palace of Illusions

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The book is written by Author Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni.  The book talks about the tale of Mahabharata from the perspective of Draupadi. Draupadi or Panchaali was the daughter of the King of Panchaal and the wife to five Pandav brothers. It is a celebration of womanhood, sacrifice and the strength of Draupadi. She indeed has seen a lot of hard times and this was beautifully captured from the woman’s perspective in this book by the author.

The book was available for free on Kindle when the lockdown started and it was surely a big gain for the readers.

Get the book here. 

Jaya: An Illustrated Retelling of Mahabharata

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This book is one of the books written by famous mythological author Devdutt Patnaik. In addition, the speciality of the book is that it has more than  250 illustrations by the author himself. He has done a great job of simplifying the Sanskrit verses and adding details that are lesser-known.

Karna’s Wife: The Outcasts Queen

This is another of the feminist retelling. Kavita Kane is a famous feminist writer. It tells the story of Mahabharata from Uruvi, Karna’s wife’s perspective.

I, Duryodhana

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The book is written from the perspective of Duryodhana who is rather not on the good side as everyone may say. Get the book here.

The Kurukshetra War series

 

This series written by Aditya Iyengar consists of two books. The first book is about the thirteenth day of the way when the three most sought after warriors of the Kaurava clan left the battle. Similarly, the second part of the series follows the events that take place after the thirteenth day.

Ajaya

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Jaya means victory in Hindi. In Ajaya, author Anand Neelkantan has shown the other side of victory. That is, he has written the book from the Kauravas point of view. Get the book here.

Arjuna: Saga Of A Pandava Warrior-Prince

The book is a detailed retelling from the perspective of Arjuna. It follows his life right from his birth till his death. In addition, it also reveals a lot of the emotional side of Arjuna.

Yudhistar and Darupadi

The text is written in the form of a poem. The Hindi translation of the book is done by none other than Gulzar.

Mahabharat series

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This is also another series of two books. However, it is quite different from other series. Each of the two books puts forth two opposing views of the great war. For instance, one of it tells the story from the Pandavas side. On contrary, the other one says the story from the opposite view of the Kauravas.

Don’t forget to read Dr. Shashi Tharoor On What To Read

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How To Tackle Emotional Blackmail In A Relationship

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Emotional blackmail is when a person tries to manipulate you to make you do things their way. They use your feelings to control your behavior. And this kind of nature might be seen in some relationships where one partner manipulates the other to get their work done.

The examples of emotional blackmail are very subtle and they are generally exhibited in one’s body language and disappointment. So, people should prevent this kind of behavior when they feel that they are manipulated in a relationship. So, here’s everything you should know about it.

Examples of emotional blackmail and how to handle this?

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Signs of emotional blackmail

These are the subtle signs of this behavior:

Demand: They will demand from their partner to not meet a particular friend or do a specific thing. This would be conveyed in a subtle way.

Resistance: If the other person tries to resist it, then their partner will push again indirectly to make that happen.

Pressure: Next, they will pressurize directly. There are high chances that they will try to criticise or demean the person.

Threats: When nothing is working, they will directly threaten to get the things done.

Compliance: Then, they’ll have to agree with their partner and listen to what they say. The conflict will be over and their partner will be nice to them for doing what they want.

Repetition: When such a situation arrives, they will know how to play with your mind to make you do their work. They will keep controlling their behaviour.

Other examples of emotional blackmail

Some people use other tactics to manipulate their partner’s feelings such as the following:

Punish: They will punish their partners for not obeying their orders.

Self-Punishers: Here, people will punish themselves to make their partner feel bad for not listening to them.

Tantalizers: People will use kind gestures and words to manipulate their partner’s mind. They will be extremely nice while demanding something.

What to do?

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Handling this kind of situation is quite tricky. You have to be calm and think wisely to react to such things. So, here’s what you can do:

First, keep calm and take time to think about what your partner wants.

Start a conversation with him or her. Try to convey your feelings. Tell them how you feel when they demand something illogical.

Show them that love doesn’t include blackmail. It may seem common knowledge, but we do forget at a rapid rate as things are always going left right and center when we are alive. You need to instil the knowledge that whenever they demand something from you, they must be prepared for yes or no and not threaten you or start whining about hurting themselves when they get a response they did not expect.

You can also seek professional help to resolve these matters.

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